You’ve all heard of culture shock. Moving to a new country where things are done differently, where they speak a different language, where cultural norms and social mores are so… different. Some people get it really bad (and these are the people who don’t end up staying for long), but others get in a serious of sudden, spontaneous homesicknesses. Not because the new is bad, but because you miss the old.
There’s also something called reverse culture shock. Potentially more lethal. When you come back to your home country, you start to miss all the things that you liked about living abroad, and sometimes you had no choice about coming back. Your visa expired. You ran out of money. You don’t have the same rights in your foreign country, or maybe you find it impossible to be with the person of your dreams unless you come home. In that case, reverse culture shock can be severe. You are in the place you grew up in, but it’s all these reasons that prompted you to leave that are digging that thorn even deeper. When your home away from home is no longer your home. And home isn’t really home any more.
I feel somewhat blessed, in the way a chameleon is blessed in turning green and yellow and brown. My culture shock has always been minimal, and I re-adapt to living in the United States without a second thought. Is it weird to be back home? I am asked. I mean, I guess it’s weird to do your shopping a bit differently, your cooking, your (non)walking, your talking. But, as I’ve lived in Switzerland and then the United States, France and then the United States and then France again – visiting again in the United States is like traveling to see loved ones, camping out there for a week or two, and then moving on to the next destination.
But then again, I don’t really know what settling down somewhere is like. I have perpetually been a student, studied abroad as a student, moved here and there as a student, but I have not yet worked somewhere abroad, picked out my apartment, and truly made a life. I’d love to have that opportunity arise, but whether that will be soon or far off is hard to say.
My Christmas presents from my oldest, dearest friends? Arm & Hammer baking soda and cake mixes.
I don’t think I’ll be missing home anytime soon.